Once upon a time, there was me and you just us two. This is a line from “Sex and The City” I will never forget. Once upon a time is a phrase that is embedded in time. When I see or hear those four words, I immediate associate it with a fairy tale, a princess looking for her destined love.
What many do not realize is that these princesses, just like all of us have
obstacles that at one point or another have to be confronted. In order for a
princess to live “happily ever after,” she must conquer her demons. As they say, even the best fall. After a person falls, the only direction to go is up.
It is amazing how one fairy tale can imitate our lives. I feel that Snow
White is the fairy tale that best expresses me.
Snow White is a young, naive girl who believes that everyone is good. Even though her stepmother treats her badly and gives her rags to wear, Snow White still expresses her love. It is not until the hunter (whom the Evil Queen hires to kill Snow White) tells Snow White about her step-mother’s real intentions. It is then that Snow White runs away to an unknown territory to find herself. The Seven Duarfs not only symbolize kindness and friendship, but also represent her conscience, a Jimmy Cricket of sorts.
The real test of Snow White’s mauturity is when faced with the deceitfully
beautifully appearing apple. Once again, Snow White shows that she is naive and as a result, is poisoned and falls into a deep slumber.
Back to the comparison between Snow White and myself- I am honestly naive and give people the benefit of a doubt. It is until I get hurt and see a person’s true colors, that I realize not everyone is “nice.” However, it is lesson that I am continuing to learn, and one that I may face for the rest of my life. In reality, one must ask… Does one trust their own instincts in regards to being with the right people? How can we even tell?
What I do know is that in order for my “happily ever after” to happen, I must go through the “forest.” I have to experience things for myself. I must learn who I am before I learn about someone else. It is a very difficult journey to face and one that I have put off for a long time. I do not think I will ever be fully ready, but in order to become an adult, like I want to be, this is something I must do.